Kid won’t fall asleep alone?
I help moms and kids repair their guts and have way more fun together.
We explore small healing steps, figure out what works best for them, and bit by bit shift choices with food, sleep and calm until it’s pretty automatic, and you both feel way better.
This is how long-term behavior-change happens. (sounds boring, right?)
And... short term solutions are the bridge. (waaayyyy more exciting!)
The little hacks and tricks are MAGIC.
You need space & rest to think & recover from being in Super-Mama-Overdrive for your child.
You need a flipping break to have the energy to even think about changing anything!
You need to just. stop. the madness. NOW.
Sleep is vital not just to your gut health but to your whole body and brain and life and ability to be a mom.
You must be asleep deeply and for enough time so your organs can self-clean. Including your brain. Including literally sweeping the small intestine with the migrating motor complex.
Gut-brain connection, yo! Senate committee hearings to limit the use of sleep deprivation as a form of torture! YOU NEED SLEEP!
I have lots of tips to help you and your child get more sleep, better quality sleep, fall asleep faster… but let’s take care of you first.
So TODAY here’s one glorious maneuver to try if you get trapped in your child’s bed for hours because your child can’t/won’t go to sleep without you.
HOW TO ESCAPE THE “STAY WITH ME TIL I FALL ASLEEP” TRAP (use your judgment and be safe, of course):
Enjoy your evening routine together! Snuggle, read, sing, massage their feet with lavender oil, do a little evening EFT tapping*... whatever you love together in the evening.
When you’re ready to go wash the dishes or relax with a few cat videos (or your partner) or just get in bed and go to sleep yourself, do this:
Say “I’m going to do [do the dishes, pay the bills, answer email] for 15 minutes, and then I’ll come give you more kisses!”
Walk out the door with a loving smile and ZERO HESITATION. On the first night, even though you said you’d be back after 15 minutes, it may be helpful to poke your head in after the first few minutes and remind them you’re finishing up the dishes and that you’ll be back in a few. You’re building trust along with this new routine, to set their nerves at ease and allow the exhaustion to overcome them.
Return in about 15 minutes. (Develop trust!) If your child is still up, kiss them, tuck them in again, whatever is precious and loving between you, and walk out the door again, telling them again you’ll return in 15 minutes (maybe with a different activity).
Repeat until your child is asleep.
Repeat every evening. Usually, a child will begin falling asleep before you return the first time.
Do you want to try this?